Deployment Day #37

I’m out of town for work. I like to travel but I don’t like to be away from my family.

If I’m being really honest with myself this time feels different. I miss the kids and have been texting them all day, but it is nice to not have to make anyone dinner, pick up toys, or remind people to do their chores.

Even though I worked almost twelve hours yesterday, it feels like a vacation. I’m trying not to think about the part when I get back and need to make sure everyone is caught up on homework and cleaning this weekend.

I went out to dinner with the folks I work with and they ordered this…

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I’m NOT an adventurous eater. In fact give me a grilled cheese or a salad and I’m content. But I also want to be open to trying new things. Of course I didn’t think those new things would be staring at me from the dinner table.

Once you got over the fact that the fish was staring at you it was pretty tasty. I only had two bites- because the whole staring at me thing kind of creeped me out, but it was good.

I also tried duck’s neck. Thank you Duck Dynasty for the fact that I even considered eating that little appetizer.

I can’t wait to get back to see the kids, and I’m working like crazy to get caught up on tons of projects so next week I don’t have to work much at all. Being a working single parent is really hard. I’m not sure how folks do it.

My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #36

Today I spent some time in the car with my seventeen year old son. It isn’t very often that I have alone time with my older kids since they both work and have a pretty full social life.

I like this kid.

Not just because he’s a lot like me, we can sit in silence for extended periods of time without it being awkward or thinking something is wrong and then pick up a conversation out of nowhere.

He’s the one who has shown the most levelheadedness since his dad has been gone. When I get upset with the kids he’s kindly asked me to consider why I’m upset.

The other day he came home from a meeting and I was upset with him because his bathroom was a wreck. When he walked into my room I let him know how disappointed I was in the room.

After I was finished with my lecture he didn’t say anything. I asked him if he thought I was being too hard on him. He told me that it was hard to walk into my room and get reprimanded before even saying hello.

He was right.

He could have stormed off, yelled back, or just shut down. But he didn’t.

This kid isn’t perfect, in fact he’s given me more than a few gray hairs.

But I’m so proud of how he has handled all of this. There are so many bright spots in this deployment, I hope to share them all before it is over.

My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #35

As we drove around town tonight and I couldn’t help but notice all the lights and Christmas decorations. They are in stores, along the streets, and Christmas music is playing everywhere.

I don’t mind the Christmas music, my daughter has been playing it since Halloween. This is my favorite time of year. The only time when I am able to tolerate winter. For some reason, being cold in December makes sense. Being cold in March doesn’t!

With all the lights, decorations, and music I couldn’t help but think about how much I miss our whole family being together this month. We were apart last year until the day before Christmas, and we were apart two years before that.

Decorating the tree, making cookies, and trying to eat all the leftovers without dad is sad. Although, I know for him there will be no tree, no decorations, and no leftovers.

Christmas just isn’t the same without our family together. My older kids are getting old. I’m realizing that we might not have many more Christmases together with just our a family. I realize there is nothing I can do about this Christmas, but I want this one to be our last as a family apart.

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My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #34

It was a long day. People who know me will tell you I don’t like to leave my house. Not in a phobia sort of way, I CAN leave my house, I just don’t like to.

After spending the past three nights, awake with a crying four year old I decided it was time to take a trip to the doctor’s office.

Diagnosis: Brochitis and ear infection.

We spent most of the afternoon running errands, picking up prescriptions, and getting groceries. I was gone half the day. I realize this is normal for many people, but when I’m unloading groceries at 8:45pm and then sitting down to check school work it makes for a long day.

It was the first time in a while I was tired of doing it all by myself. I’m not blaming anyone or angry. Just tired.

I’ve heard the flu is going around. Last year (when I was doing the single parent thing for four months) every single kid got the flu. It was terrible. I’m trying not to think about that as I dose out the pink stuff this week.

My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #33

Mail is super slow so he’s been sending postcards in advance for the family.

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My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #32

For those of you who love college football, you know that today is the day when all the teams play their rivals. This is always a big day in our house being lifelong Florida State fans.

We actually video chatted during the big game, but his version of the game was about 40 seconds ahead of ours so he kept calling out the plays before they happened. After I threatened to hang up on him he stopped.

We passed the iPad around and everyone got a chance to chat with him, including my parents. It was a fun afternoon.

Not wanting to have a miserable Sunday checking co-op homework, I’ve been checking it throughout the week. Today I sat down for the final check and after reading through a few emails realized that my son’s big end of the semester project is due Monday not next Monday.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!

I spent the rest of my evening helping him with his project that is due in less than 48 hours. He is completely unconcerned about the deadline and seems to think I could be overreacting a little bit.

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I could think of about a million things I’d rather be doing than going to the store to pick up block letters and glue sticks while helping put together a presentation board on China, but here I am. And here I’ll be tomorrow helping him finish it up, past bedtime, trying to get it all done before school on Monday.

My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #31

My parents are in town this week. The kids are having a great time with their grandparents and enjoying all the special treats that come with visitors in town. (Later bedtimes, dessert for breakfast, movies in the middle of the day, etc)

My mom’s birthday falls right after Christmas so I decided to take her clothes shopping for her birthday. My mom rarely buys anything for herself, she is always giving to others. I thought it would be fun to take her to the store where my daughter works and get her a pretty outfit.

We had a great time shopping and it was fun to see my mom actually doing something for herself, which never happens!

The kids are distracted from real life with all the holiday hustle and bustle. I’m hoping the distraction carries over until after Christmas.

My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #30

I had  great day. We were surrounded by family and friends and even though I broke my Thanksgiving rule and spent the whole day baking, it was awesome.

A half a world away, he had a lonely Thanksgiving. He ate dinner by himself and spent the evening in his room, alone. I can’t imagine feeling so alone, but I’m sure it is common for many of our troops overseas, and at training here in the states.

I use to be a letter writer. When we were first married he lived in Panama and I lived in Florida. I wrote him a letter almost every day.

This time around I’ve sent him one box and it didn’t even have a note inside.

I guess things are different now. We Facebook message or text almost every day. I feel like there is nothing left to say, and nothing left in me to say it.

I want to say that I will start writing him letters, but the reality is, I won’t. I can’t even remember to water the plant he gave me before he left.

I don’t know how to keep him from feeling so alone and really I don’t think I can.

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My parents are here visiting. Yay!!!

My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #29

After the excitement of yesterday, there is so much to be thankful for today.

As we approach this holiday season I realize that even though things are tough around here my life is better than I deserve.

I’m truly thankful for all the prayers and support we’ve received from people both online and offline. We could not make it through this time without it.

My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.

Deployment Day #28

Today we headed into DC to visit my sister-in-law and family. They are in town on vacation and we were headed to the Natural History museum for the afternoon.

The five youngest kids and I hopped on the metro and headed downtown. About two stops into our ride Cora started doing the potty dance. I had just taken her to the bathroom before we left so I figured she could hold it.

One stop later she was sobbing saying she couldn’t hold it any longer.

I realized that having a screaming four year old on the metro is not ideal for anyone so we got off at the next stop and tried to find a bathroom. I was a little nervous getting off with the kids since not all of the stops are in family friendly areas and I had no idea where a bathroom was in the station.

I asked an employee if they had a bathroom and they led me out a side gate so we didn’t have to get our tickets swiped. Then my older kids had to wait in a yucky hallway while I took Cora to the bathroom.

We got back on the metro and I was glad the excitement for our day was over.

We had a fun time at the museum and then we decided to grab dinner in the city.

My sister-in-law headed in one car with the girls and I took all the boys. We got to the restaurant first and got table. We waited for the girls to arrive. I saw them pull up and then waited for them to come in. It seemed like it was taking a really long time for them to get inside.

The hostess came up to the table and said,

“Are you with a group of little girls?”

I said I was and she told me I was needed at the front. I couldn’t figure out why they would need me, but I got up and walk back to the front of the restaurant.

When I arrived at the front I saw several people surrounding the revolving door. I walked closer and realized Cora was stuck in the door. Not just stuck but trapped.

Apparently as she was walking in she slipped and her foot became wedged between the door and the circular casing. Her whole body was trapped in one compartment and her foot was stuck in the compartment entering the restaurant. Her foot was acting like a door jam making it impossible to move the door in either direction.

She was hysterical. Actually she was beyond hysterical. She was uncooperative and completely out of control. I don’t blame her, she was face down on the ground, with her leg twisted in the other direction, trapped in this glass box.

The restaurant staff was working to get her free, but she screamed in pain every time they tried to turn her foot to get it out of the door. I walked out of the restaurant so she could see me and tried to calm her down. Seeing my face caused her to get even more upset.

After a few minutes I realized the only way to get her out was to get the boot off her foot. The boot was keeping her ankle and foot from being able to bend enough to maneuver it out of the door.

The problem was that her boot was a zip up boot with a velcro closure at the top. It is hard to unzip when you have access to it, let alone when you only have a few inches to get your hand through an opening and the boot zipper is facing the wall.

The manager and I worked to get the boot off.

Someone showed up with scissors. They were going to try and cut the weather stripping from around the door. I didn’t think that would work, but I was willing to try anything. Every minute that passed Cora became more and more upset. I was worried she might pass out from crying so hard.

All of a sudden I looked up and saw my seven year old standing outside the door. I couldn’t believe she was still outside. I yelled at her to get in the restaurant right this minute.

She threw her hands up in the air and said she couldn’t. That’s when I realized she was trapped in the other compartment of the revolving door. She had been standing there quietly the whole time, just waiting to be set free.

Two of my girls were trapped.

Someone called 911.

We continued to work to get the boot off begging Cora to help us.

I finally got the velcro opened and we went to work on the zipper. I realized that maybe I could cut the boot off, although I wasn’t sure how I could do it given the angle of the foot in the door.

I realized that I might have to break her ankle to get her out of the door.

I’m not one to panic in stressful situations, but I could feel panic coming over me. I knew Cora could survive trapped in the door for a long time, but the fact that she wouldn’t calm down and was face down on the ground made the situation feel so urgent.

Finally, and I would say miraculously, the boot came off. I don’t even remember what happened after that, but in a second her tiny foot was free from the door and she was slumped in my arms, sobbing quietly.

As soon as she was free the paramedics and fire truck showed up. The firemen came into the restaurant with a giant ax. Panic once again filled my body. I couldn’t imagine them having to break the glass on my girls to get them out. The thought of glass showering upon my girls upset me almost more than the entire ordeal.

I was so thankful we got her out before they arrived.

The paramedics checked her out and offered to take us to the hospital for x-rays. Cora seemed more traumatized than hurt (thank goodness for little flexible bones) so I declined a ride in an ambulance through the streets of DC at 5pm.

I finished my day by taking eight kids, thirteen and under, on the metro home for the night. (My niece and nephews are hanging out with us for a day)

I have a problem in that I think I can do pretty much anything if I put my mind to it. Taking eight kids on a metro was not the easiest thing I’ve ever done.

Things that came out of my mouth-

Sit down.

Stand up.

Move over.

Stop staring.

Quit kicking.

Stay in your seat.

Move next to your brother. 

Stop getting up. 

Get away from the door.

Ahhh… another day in the books and one day closer to not doing it alone.

My husband has been deployed to the Middle East for 274 days.  These are my real thoughts expressing my heart during his absence.  I appreciate your prayers and kind words as we cope, adapt, and carry on without him until August 2014.  To read from the beginning, click here.